Here is my quandary. I have some sl friends i like. A lot. First, there is Zaphod, who as everyone knows, I torture mercilessly. I have not done anything mean to him. He is a great talker and becoming as close a friend as anyone can in sl. Then there is Aragorn. He is a very sweet caring person who makes me feel very nice indeed. Mace is the first person to comment on my blog and then find me in sl. A constant gentleman, his conversation skills make me melt. Then there is Kirby. The girl of the group, Kirby knows how to please. Specifically, me. Warm verbal hugs have always gone a long way with me. Plus, she’s hot in that confidant “I can hang with all types of people even though i am out of their league but i don’t care about that crap” way.
What is my quandary? Well in the movie “Mash” The dentist is afraid that he is gay and is worried about what to tell his three fiancees back home. It is true, I was not looking for more than casual friendships, due to lack of time on-line. But I find myself becoming a little sad when my friends are not there. Am I just a complete nut-case? Or is there something deeper to this?And, what should I do about it?
Advice is gratefully accepted.
Pox
P.S. Even if there is a lot more to it all than I know, I probably am a crazy person anyway. Just ask Zaphod.
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Yeah but they were able to cure Painless with a faux suicide and an amzingly surreal ceremony. >=)
Yer not a nutcase. It is to be expected that you miss friends of any kind whether they be next door or available only via virtual interaction.
Not to sound like gloom and doom, I am experiencing a problem with old friends in sl announcing that they are leaving and not coming back. My dear friend today announced that he is way too addicted to it and it’s affecting his family and job. Unhappily he says he can’t sleep and has great anxiety. As I look around I note that there are not many people on sl for more than a year. I will miss my best friend greatly.
I can see how it can be a terrible distraction to real life. Just as porn can ruin a marriage, second life or any other thing that pulls you away from family can be destructive. You may miss your friend, but be glad to have known him and proud of him to know when to stop.
This second life is phenomenal, but not worth the price of a divorce and the hell that follows.
I think the best way is for a married couple to enjoy it together. After the kids are in bed. Or just start single.
But, what do I know?
Pox
I have friends in sl that I know spend way to much time online. I duck in and out while at work, which I don’t like myself much for. I resolve to be more disciplined and only be on at lunch. Feel free to berate me if you catch me in sl during the week other than between 12 and 1 pm. Thanks for the support.
Berate yourself good fellow. We are not your nanny, mother or behavioral watchdog >=). If I could log onto the grid while I was at work I probably would.
Shamus picks himself up out of the dust. Brushes himself off. Smoothes his ruffled feathers, looks at Mace and says loudly, “psfffffffttt!!!